Royal Warior


I have said this and I will say it a million times again, I am not giving anyone the power to steal my joy!

For a couple of years now I have been on an intentional journey of having a stress-free life. If you know me well you know that I do not like anything stressful, anything that will steal my joy. My body naturally reacts negatively to such circumstances. I know that because I finally took the time to listen to my body. In life, things happen to us which are beyond our control, and trust me when I say I have had a lot of such. I have had a lot of such. Now let me tell you how I manage to live a life of ease. Below are some rules I follow.

1. Do not put yourself in a position of “No Other Option”.

In my journey of finding myself, I realized that one of the only times I lose control is when I do not have a choice, I mean who on earth will like to be in the place of *I don’t have a choice?* Not me, I get really frustrated when I am in such a situation. If I do not have the privilege to make a choice, it should only be instances like sickness, etc, or something not in my power. For example, if I have a job I know I chose to work there and I have other options so in a case where I feel stretched I leave easily. I am not saying that I run at the smell of anything uncomfortable. I do my best then if it is not enough I do not stretch, I make another choice.

“Long life is in her right hand; in her left hand are riches and honor. Her ways are ways of pleasantness, and all her paths are peace. She is a tree of life to those who lay hold of her; those who hold her fast are called blessed.”
-Proverbs 3:16-18

2. Take One Day At A Time

Most of our problems come from the fact that we are living in the future or caught up in the past. The moment I mastered the act of living in the present, that changed the whole game for me, I started living a happier and easy life. I go with the flow and make enough room for the present. I understand that we need to have goals and that’s great because they keep us motivated but imagine a situation of me sitting here worried about the mortgage for December and we are still in April or that you worried about what color your bridesmaids would wear at your wedding when you don’t even have a marriage proposal yet. Taking one day at a time and living in the moment has me one step forward in the game, I definitely get moments where I am trapped in my past or the future but I make a conscious effort to crawl back to this very present second in time. No matter what you are going through, take one day at a time what will happen tomorrow will happen. Trust God, trust the process. Have you ever looked back at a moment and wished you were more present?

“As you go, step by step I will open up the way before you” (Proverbs 4:12

3. Learn to sleep things out

This is one game I have mastered and now a pro at it. Our brains are one powerful machine to watch out for. How you train your brain today makes a big difference tomorrow. When I am disturbed for whatever reason my first reaction is to go to bed as soon as possible. I think that is me running away from myself, from the situation but most times I wake up feeling better with or without a solution. Sometimes it is very hard for me to fall asleep when in that state and I lean towards sleeping pills sometimes, bad bad habit please don’t take that route but that works for me. To me, it could be sleep and to you, it could be something else. My bf is one I would term a workaholic and most times when he is being beaten up with a hard task and no solution he calls me. It is funny how this has worked for him so many times that after talking with me (and so you know I am a distraction and not good for business) he gets back to work and immediately finds a solution. To him, I am his sleeping. Sometimes you just need to take aback and calm down, leave it alone.

“In peace I will both lie down and sleep; for you alone, O Lord, make me dwell in safety.
-Psalm 4:8

4. You Do Not Have To Respond To Everything

We have this urge the always be heard or to prove a point, or to have the last word, or to be right. Leaving a life at ease means you don’t necessarily have to prove you are right even when you know you are right. That people have their opinions that it is okay to let them keep them, and that you do not need to be in agreement with everyone at all times even the people you love. I truly don’t feel the need to explain myself, I will most likely leave you with a dimple *ok* or *thank you*.

Proverbs 16:9: “We can make our plans, but the Lord determines our steps.”

5. Let God Lead

Truly I tell you there is no true peaceful life without God in the center and leaving life with ease means having a peaceful life. When I worship my problems feel smaller and that makes my life easier.

Psalm 37:23-24: “The Lord directs the steps of the godly. He delights in every detail of their lives. Though they stumble, they will never fall, for the Lord holds them by the hand.”

6. Be Okay Knowing That Nothing You Have Is Yours To Own

The day the Lord set this on my heart I said to myself “ I am very dangerous”. To hold this mindset and believe in it means letting go easily. Most of the time we hold on to things so tight, we hold on to people for dear life, we put all our hopes and sometimes our life on the line for them and guys okay? Have you paused to marinate the fact that you do not own even your own life? We must be okay with the fact that people will come in to your life, serve their purpose and leave and you must be okay with leaving with the void they leave in us. People in your life will die, trust me we will all die but when they do grief, but grief with dignity. Set your mind on that you came here with nothing and not even the children God blessed you with are under your control or yours to own.

“Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you.
Not as the world gives do I give to you.
Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.”
-John 14:27

I could continue but I guess I need to give you the opportunity to tell me some of the things that help you leave life with ease.


10 Responses

  1. Thank you for another insightful post. I truly enjoyed reading it. I agree with almost all of the recommended ways to live a life of ease. We always jokingly say you were not made for stress, and thankfully, you have ways to alleviate stressful situations in your life. The part about sleeping your stress off is great for the person who is sleeping but terribly frustrating for the person who wants to resolve the issue. For instance, my husband prefers to sleep if he has a stressful situation but it frustrates be to the high heavens because I want to talk about it and move on. The way I deal with stressful situations is asking myself if worrying about it will change any thing. If my answer is no, then I don’t worry about it. If it is yes, then I find possible solutions, that’s how I live a life of ease but unlike you I still have a long way to go. Thank you.

    1. Ok this comment is making me laugh do much so that I am feeling my life easing. Number 1 it is no news that ur husband and I have so much in common like sleep it away ????????. Well sleep was just an example, like the other example says talking to me as a form of distraction helps someone else. Now the whole point was take, take a break away from the problem and that might just be the solution you need

  2. A great read as always my sweat sister. My greatest take away, we must all come to that place of being still as what will be will be. No point losing yourself over what is sure to pass away. Find your place of stillness, and dwell in it as much as you need, so you can be all that and plenty more to go around.
    ????ly weekend

  3. What a great write up. I absolutely love the second point. Present moment awareness helps decrease stress and abrupt changes in your mood because you have more control over your thoughts.

  4. “4. You Do Not Have To Respond To Everything”

    Absolutely ???? We typically feel like we need to respond or clarify every situation. Not responding is ok as well.
    Thanks for these tips dear.

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